There is a saying that I like when it comes to women. “It’s easier to ask for forgiveness then it is to ask for permission”. It should go without saying that this is not to be taken out of context. I mean in a light hearted playful way that makes her smile.

There is a big difference between an invitation and “asking” if she will go with you. An invitation is cool and exciting and less personal. If you “ask her out” and she says ‘no’ then it would appear that she is saying no to you. Why don’t you learn how to ask a girl out without actually asking? 

If you offer her an exciting invitation not only does that make you look better but if she happens to “respectfully decline” then it is not actually YOU that she is saying no to, it’s the INVITATION. This way you can ask her out with out being rejected. This is a more effective method and is much easier to do. 

If you were to ask one of your friends to catch up sometime would you get all nervous about it? You’d just throw out a suggestion, if they said no you wouldn’t take it to heart would you? 

This is how you should ask a girl out, keep it casual and relaxed, don’t build it up into something that its not. The first date should be nothing serious. Its the pre qualifying “interviewing” stage where you are still in the process of deciding if you like her or not. Do not decide that you like her when you don’t know enough to determine if you do or not. Do not give away your power so quickly. 

Three Basic Examples 

1. Ask- “would you like to go out with me sometime” This is the worst way because you are “asking” and it comes across as kind of wussy and not very confident. Also it can come across as more serious like a full on date or something. 

2. Suggest- “We should catch up sometime” This is better because it is casual and has less preconceived expectations that go with it and you’re not asking her you’re just suggesting.

3. Tell her your plans and invite her: “Hey I’m am going to (Blah blah Some where cool) you should come along” This is the best way as it is more specific, more fun (if you do it right) and more relaxed (makes her feel comfortable) because it isn’t a date it’s just a nice fun little invitation. Furthermore you are demonstrating that you are in control and more interesting because you already have plans, you already have a life and you know how to take control of a situation. 

If I was going to ask out a girl in a nice light hearted way I would say something like “Hey, I’m going out (somewhere cool) on Saturday you should come along”. If she pauses hand her a piece of paper and say “here, write your number down and I’ll text you”. This is so casual and relaxed that even if she says no it doesn’t matter, it’s cool. You and her will feel more comfortable this way, leaving the door open for future possibilities, no might only mean no for the moment, as in “give me more time to warm to the idea”  If you can make her smile and feel comfortable then you’re are 80% there.

If you want to have some fun and she is the type of girl that you can joke around with (I hope you can sense if she is or not) you could say something like “so when are you going to ask me out? I’ve been standing here for (look at your watch) like ten minutes now and you haven’t even taken my number yet” then put your hands on your hips, tilt your head, pretend to look surprised and then smile. 

It’s funny and later you can throw in something like “I understand if your worried that I might say no”. She doesn’t have to answer, it’s just about letting her know what you’re all about. Confidence is a feeling that you create not something you’re born with.

How To Ask a Girl Out | Timing- Is Everything

It is not, “nice guys finish last”, it’s “shy guys who procrastinate finish last.

The best time to ask a girl out is after one of those nice moments when she smiles or laughs and you have decided that you want to ask her out. That’s right, do not delay and let it build up in your mind into something that it’s not. First day ask her out. 

If you have to wait a month to wait for the perfect time then don’t bother asking. Procrastination is not confident, attraction has an expiration date. If you wait too long she will think in her mind “he doesn’t have the confidence to ask me out” and if she thinks this she will start to lose attraction for you and then you will become someone that she is not interested in.

When you ask her out keep it casual, formal is out. A “formal date” has too many preconceived expectations built into it which leads to pressure and nervousness, this is not the best way to get to know someone. Timing and appropriateness is a big part of courting and a formal dinner is simply not appropriate for your first “date”. 

Women like a man who can make decisions, after years of talking to and interviewing all kinds of women, when asked the question “what do you want from a man” I always hear the same thing. “I just want someone to take care of me” even high powered women still want someone to make them feel special, loved and taken care of. 

This all starts on the first date when YOU make the decisions as to what you do and where but not when. If you work with her on the schedule your chances of getting a yes are much higher. Check the video page for more hints on how to ask a girl out.

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